In a job interview and also as a permanent employee, it is important to present yourself in a good light. But be careful: There are a few sentences people like to brag about when talking to their boss – but those statements really make them look pretty bad.
We looked at five statements that Amy Morin, author of the book “13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do”, classified as a no-go for a topic of conversation with the boss.
1. “I’m really good at multitasking”
If you say that you can do several things at once, you convey the following message to your boss: “I am constantly distracted.”
Multitasking is something that nobody can do, says Morin. She supports her statement with a study by Stanford University. This states: “People who are regularly bombarded with various types of electronic information are less attentive, have poor memory and switch from one task to another more difficultly than those who prefer to do one task at a time.” So multitasking even leads to this that you are less productive.
“So if you are tempted to say that you are doing 12 tasks at once like a pro,” Morin concludes, you should consider rephrasing your self-praise.
2. “I am a perfectionist”
You shouldn’t proudly trumpet this sentence. Morin summarizes that perfectionists are not as highly respected as assumed. “Their intolerance for mistakes and excessively high standards lead subordinates to hide their mistakes rather than looking for ways to recover from them.”
A study by the psychologist Robert W. Hill states that there are two different types of perfectionists: Those who have been satisfied with their perfectionism and strive to diligently pursue their goals and always do their best. But then there are also perfectionists who need the approval of their fellow human beings and are afraid of mistakes. Further studies have shown that perfectionists have a significantly higher risk of burnout and are more prone to health and psychological problems.
Even if you’re in the first category, you’d better keep that to yourself.
3. “I’ve never failed at anything”
“There’s a big difference between trying to succeed and trying to avoid failure,” explains Morin. If your goal is not to make mistakes, the chances are good that you are not reaching your full potential.
One study looked at how fear of failure affects young people’s learning behavior. In fact, people with fear of failure set goals that only help them look good. New tasks that have the potential to fail are not tackled in the first place. You don’t want to act like that on your boss, do you?
So have you guys really never failed? That’s good – as long as it doesn’t seem like you’re just being careful not to make mistakes. At this point Morin gives the following advice: “Instead of denying your mistakes, you should admit them and show what you have learned from them.”
4. “I hardly ever sleep”
Lack of sleep is not something to brag about. Some successful entrepreneurs boast that little sleep makes you productive – Amy Morin disagrees and sees the whole thing as a “strange phenomenon”.
Numerous studies have shown that a lack of sleep can have serious consequences. Finnish researchers have found, for example, that a lack of sleep damages both the brain and organs. Other studies show that too little sleep affects your cognitive abilities such as attention, memory, problem-solving skills or creativity. Accordingly, this is not an aspect that you should brag about to your boss.
5. “I work twenty-four hours a day”
Here, too, numerous studies show that a workaholic lifestyle is no cause for boasting. Those who work too much often suffer from psychological problems, as a study by Cecilie Schou Andreassen from the University of Bergen shows.
As part of her research, Sarah Asebedo, a PhD student at Kansas State University, also found the following: “We came to the conclusion that workaholics – defined by working more than 50 hours a week – are more likely to have a bad one develop physical well-being. “
So how can you show your boss that you’re committed without calling yourself a workaholic? Morin advises, “Focus on being productive. It doesn’t matter how many hours you work. What really matters is how much you can do during your working hours. “
This article was published by NewsABC.net back in 2016. It has now been reviewed and updated.