Oh, it’s a wonderful idea. You stand at the supermarket checkout, in front of you the back of another unknown customer. Suddenly this person turns around, your eyes cross, and, bang, it happened to both of you. You share a cigarette in front of the exit. Then you go for a coffee. Two years later you are standing in front of the altar together.
Well, this scenario is not only unrealistic because a pandemic of the last century is making cigarette-sharing with strangers impossible. Even before the lockdown, very few people were allowed to meet the dream man by chance.
This is shown by the new survey wave of a representative study by the online dating agency Elitepartner, for which more than 7,200 German Internet users were surveyed in October and November 2020. The respondents were explicitly not elite partner members.
Chance love is unrealistic
According to this, almost a third of the singles surveyed believe: Love is mainly revealed by chance. On the train, when shopping or taking a walk in the park, a relatively large number of single people are most likely to expect their dream partner. If the statistics are to be believed, however, it is very unlikely that you will fall in love in this way: just four percent of the couples surveyed for the study actually met by pure chance. In the case of long-term couples, it is also only five percent.
So chance love is pretty unrealistic – but many people still want it. “Hoping for the right partner by chance is linked to the wish that something as special as great love should be combined with an extraordinary story,” explains psychologist Lisa Fischbach from Elitepartner. “But chance is not a helpful matchmaker, as it rarely brings together those who fit together in the long term.”
Other areas of life promise more success in the search, says Fischbach: for example one’s own circle of friends. “There you meet people from a similar environment with a greater overlap in terms of attitudes, values and interests,” she says. This is exactly the principle behind dating apps, which use certain algorithms to compare how well the interests and preferences of two people go together.
Hobbies, sports, traveling: even before Corona there were no “partner exchanges”
It is therefore not surprising that precisely these dating apps are also the most successful means when it comes to finding love. More than a third of all couples who have met in the past five years met online. And of the relationships that began during the corona pandemic, 43 percent were made on the Internet. “I am pleased to see how important this path has become, especially during the corona pandemic, in which other contact options are greatly reduced,” says psychologist Lisa Fischbach.
Singles who are currently afraid of not having a chance at love because of Corona can at least draw a little hope. Even before the pandemic, anything that is no longer possible was not a particularly promising place to find the dream person: Neither during hobbies such as in a language course or a club, a particularly large number of the couples surveyed got to know each other (only seven percent), nor did it prove to be Recreational sport is a particularly good partner exchange: only three percent of all couples got to know each other in the gym or while playing tennis. Just as few relationships developed during trips and vacations – which almost completely have to be canceled due to Corona.